I believe mental strength and inner peace go hand in hand. Mentally strong people are confident that can handle whatever life throws their way. Where do you find your inner peace – sitting in Adirondack chairs at Blue Mountain Lake in the Aidrondacks or on Conesus Lake or deep in competitive half-marathon race to beat the competition or better yet beat yourself, your PR! It can be found anywhere you choose to go!
That’s not to say I don’t feel pain or that I don’t get sad — I experience emotions on a deep level. But I try not to waste energy wishing things were different or trying to change other people. I stay focused on managing my own thoughts, feelings, and behaviors.
I also make self-improvement a priority, because I know there’s always room for improvement. And I give up these 10 things that could destroy my inner peace.
1. Engaging with toxic people
Mentally strong people don’t waste their energy trying to change toxic people. I am trying to establish healthy emotional and physical boundaries. It’s not about changing them. It’s about changing me and how I choose to respond or react to being pressed, pushed, or instigated -if that is the case.
2. Excessive self-blame
Thinking everything is 100 percent my fault–whether it’s a failed relationship or an accident–will affect the way I see my self and the world around me. I can’t always prevent bad things from happening.
As a mentally strong person, I take appropriate accountability. I recognize i’m responsible for my choices, but I also acknowledge factors beyond my control–like the state of the economy, the weather, and other people’s choices.
3. Chasing happiness
Thinking I need to be happy all the time will backfire. Momentary pleasure is much different than long-term satisfaction.
As a mentally strong person, I am willing to put in the hard work it takes to gain contentment. I refuse to give in to instant gratification or temporary indulgences. I look for ways to build a brighter future by creating long-term goals.
4. Staying comfortable
It may seem like staying inside my comfort zone is the key to feeling good in life. But avoiding discomfort always backfires in the end.
As a mentally strongperson, I face my fears, venture into unknown areas, and test my limits. I know that being uncomfortable is tolerable and allowing myself to experience discomfort is the key to living a better life.
5. The victim mentality
Thinking the world and the people in it are out to get me will prevent me from being my best. In fact, if I blame all of my problems on external circumstances I’ll never take responsibility for my life.
6. Trying to impress people
I could waste a lot of my life trying to make people like me. Depending on admiration from others, however, gives others power over me.
As a mentally strong person, I am comfortable in my own skin. I am not going to waste my time worrying about whether other people approve of my choices. Instead, Ifocus on living according to my values.
7. The pursuit of perfection
Striving for excellence is healthy. But insisting on perfection is an uphill battle. I’ll never feel good enough if I set the bar impossibly high.
As a a mentally strong person, I accept that I’m going to fail and make mistakes. I am able to acknowledget my flaws and weaknesses.
8. Grudges
You may think holding onto a grudge somehow punishes someone else. But, in reality, clinging to anger and hatred only reduces my life.
As a Mentally strong person, I let go of grudges so I can focus my energy on more worthwhile causes. That doesn’t mean I allow myself to be abused by others, however. It just means I don’t allow pent-up resentment to overtake my life.
9. The quest for material things
No matter how much money I make, a bigger house, a nicer car, or more expensive clothing won’t give me peace of mind. Expecting material possessions to satisfy my needs will leave me sorely disappointed.
As a mentally strong person, I am not a minimalist, however. I can enjoy nice things. But I don’t expect my material possessions to give me joy and contentment. You know, I was always told by my mom when I was young to “simplify”, “simplify”, “SIMPLIFY”. She didn’t tell me this all at once but she kept planting the seed. I didn’t get it until later in life. Life is so complicated now, layer, I find it comforting to just have what I need.
Thinking I can do everything on my own is about acting tough–not being strong. There will be times when asking for help is important.
As a mentally strong person, I can’t be afraid to admit when I need help. Whether I rely on a higher power, ask for professional help, or lean on a friend during a time in need, I gain strength from others. Knowing they don’t have to have all the answers gives me a renewed sense of inner peace.
How to build mental muscle and gain inner peace
Inner peace comes from knowing my beliefs and the willingness to act according to them. It takes mental muscle to do that.
Fortunately, everyone has the ability to practice mental strength exercises every day. The more mental muscle I build, the easier it is to find true contentment in life.
Inner peace comes from knowing my beliefs and the willingness to act according to them. It takes mental muscle to do that.
Fortunately, everyone has the ability to practice mental strength exercises every day. The more mental muscle I build, the easier it is to find true contentment in my life.
Letting go of certain people, places, and things can open the door to true contentment in my life.
You can reach me directly at my email address anthony@anthonycrilly.com or (585)484 – 1456. Looking forward to connecting!
Best,
Anthony Crilly
Please Visit for more information: Links:
About The Author
